0:00:11my name is dirty picture and i'm at the department of psychology at the stray
0:00:14national university and i'm currently in the second year of my psychology phd
0:00:21the method study i found that the closeness of a relationship with the person regulates
0:00:28the intensity of feelings of herself to the time
0:00:32but later down the track when people reflect on the events that actually found that
0:00:38and
0:00:38the greatest it is spelt from remain seconds of the time and then followed by
0:00:43close friends later down the track
0:00:46there's more forgiveness of romantic partners
0:00:49rather as opposed to friends because it was quite surprising i'd expect to find that
0:00:54people would retain feelings about a romantic partners to a greater degree
0:01:00you know environments of evolutionary bossed we lived in bands about thirty or so also
0:01:06people and it was really important to retain this group membership because to be cost
0:01:10at the group you would endanger survival and also chance of reproduction
0:01:15so what we that speculated as other researchers have is that it is the signal
0:01:21that social acceptance in a relationship is actually been decreased
0:01:25so
0:01:27it's a powerful evolutionary signal the same way to physical pain means
0:01:32that your acceptance in a group is going down
0:01:36the two studies on mine and we basically ask people to tell us about the
0:01:41hurtful experiences in one and read about experiences in the other and to find out
0:01:46that they felt we got them to rights intensity of her feelings on a scale
0:01:53permitting partners are very special an explicit relationship and presumably every unfriendly has one of
0:01:58the time so that select investment in that relationship we get a lot about needs
0:02:03met within romantic relationships the confidence security and intimacy
0:02:08where is pronounced are a bit more of a
0:02:12it more scattered relationships they can have many friends at one time even if the
0:02:15intimate friends
0:02:17so the that
0:02:19it's worth your while more to sell but your relationship with the romantic partner then
0:02:23it is to try and stop at a relationship with a friend that you find
0:02:26i guess untrustworthy or someone he's per and you
0:02:31we also looked at the difference between close friends and acquaintances and we found that
0:02:36are really important relationships close friendships there was we the gap between the degree of
0:02:41a so part of the time and later down the track then with tobi acquaintances
0:02:45so people found that acquaintances selected be people like were colleagues or
0:02:50friends of friends they're sort of people
0:02:53right click to moderate amount of head but it was no way near the degree
0:02:57of hurt the close friends could produce
0:03:00i'm really interested in the that occurs in romantic relationships and the results of this
0:03:05study showing that the degree of how to time versus hurt following so that agree
0:03:10forgiveness this would be really fruitful area to follow up on
0:03:14because such important in intimate relationships and as i said you get a lot of
0:03:18needs met in them had bands that occur within them are likely to be improbable
0:03:22cataclysmic they are likely to affect a lot more serious about cellphone about
0:03:28relationships and how people think about them down the tracks there are really like to
0:03:31have a look at that in more detail